Weekly visits where you, your loved one, & your heavy heart
are invited to exist.
There is a saying about “spilling the tea”—pouring out the honest, unfiltered truth.
Around my table, it also simply means pouring out your heavy heart.
Here is how we do it:
I share an insightful map, step by step, of the terrain of widowhood to help you make sense of what your heart is going through.
You are given an unhurried space to share the sugar, the spice, and even the not-so-nice parts of your “Once Upon A Time” story.
By steeping in your story, and pouring out the heavy parts, we begin to make room for your heart to be filled with what remains: the profound love that started it all
We begin at the beginning—how you met—and explore the ways you held on as you moved through life together. Like Cinderella stepping onto the dance floor, we return to the first invitations that formed your “us.” Not to live in the past, but to make sense of the love that created the grief—and to let what remains become reachable again.
We begin with introductions to you, and your loved one. Then we explore who we are as widows, how we arrived at this threshold & why widowhood feels the way it does.
We return to the relationship as a dance—the invitations you gave, the ways you held on, and the tender truth of an imperfect “us.” We gently explore how love can remain reachable, even now, in a new way.
… and the story continues. A wrap‑up and reflection visit. We gather what has emerged and name the invitation you are now left holding—so you leave with a way to continue after TheraTea™.
TheraTea™ is connection‑first and paced for emotional safety. You never have to tell the story of their death here—unless you choose to.
Like tea leaves in a cup, we let what’s heavy settle, and we let what’s true rise in its own time.
We don’t stir the bottom of the cup.
At the very bottom are the tea leaves—the heavy, sometimes bitter part of the story: the days surrounding a diagnosis, or the days surrounding their physical departure. When we reach that place, we go slowly. You can choose to share it, or we can simply leave it be. You are never asked to consume the bitter end before you are ready.
We honour that it is there—while still making room for the warmth of the tea that nourished you.
If you’re looking for support for your parent, you’re in the right place. TheraTea™ is for widows who need a steady, private place to talk about their person and make sense of widowhood— in their own home, familiar place or online.
TheraTea™ is widowhood support and grief education through guided conversation. It is not companionship care, home care, personal care or housekeeping support.
I don’t provide:
(If your parent needs those supports, a home care provider is the right fit—and TheraTea™ can complement that kind of care.)
Because this is a deeply personal, consent-based service, the ‘yes’ must come directly from your parent. You are more than welcome to help them schedule or even sit nearby for the first few minutes, but they must choose this path for themselves.
(Please note: if your parent is navigating cognitive decline and cannot participate meaningfully in guided conversation, TheraTea™ will not be the right fit).
If your parent is open to it, the best first step is a TheraTea™ Call—a no‑pressure conversation to see if the approach fits.
It is completely normal to have questions before inviting someone into your home.
Here are a few things you might be wondering.
For anyone (married or not) grieving the death of a partner that they called home—who want a steady, private place to speak their loved one’s name and are open to the possibility that love continues.
No. TheraTea™ is widowhood support and grief education, held through guided conversation. It isn’t psychotherapy or clinical counselling, and it does not diagnose or treat mental health conditions.
No. TheraTea™ is widowhood support and grief education through guided conversation. It is not companionship, home care, personal care, housekeeping, errands, or clinical services.
Your parent must choose TheraTea™ for themself. You’re welcome to support the scheduling, but consent and participation need to come from them.
The choice is up to you.
In Your Home
We can meet in a comfortable room in your home. No need to tidy up or host me. All I need is a kettle to put on and a space to sit.
On a Zoom Call
If you’d rather stay home but not have anyone in your space, we could meet on a Zoom call.
Your TheraTea™ booklet will be mailed or delivered to you.
A Familiar Place
We can always meet at a nearby cafe or hiking trail. Weather permitting.
In-home visits include travel within Cole Harbour, Dartmouth, Eastern Passage, Halifax, and Bedford.
For locations outside this core area, a travel fee may apply (confirmed when booking).
If paid parking is required, reimbursement at cost is requested.
No. You don’t need to share any particular beliefs. TheraTea™ is for those who are open to the possibility of continuing bonds—love continuing in some way—even if you’re unsure what you believe.
We begin by making a warm drink of your choice. I bring the tea/coffee and mugs; you provide the hot water and milk/creamer.
Then we “spill the tea”:
You are never required to talk about your loved one (or their death) before you’re ready. If you’d prefer, we can simply sit with the map together and let it rest with you until your heart wants to speak.
You never have to tell the story of their death here—unless you choose to.
In TheraTea™, we don’t treat revisiting the details of the death as a requirement for grief to move. In fact, for many widows, going too directly into those moments can raise alarm, strengthen protective defences, and make it harder to access the love underneath.
When the nervous system is overwhelmed, defences come up to protect the heart. Forcing “too much, too soon” can intensify alarm and keep the heart guarded. So we prioritize emotional safety, pacing, and facing connection—creating conditions where sadness can soften and move, and where love can become reachable again.
There will be a gentle invitation near the end of our weeks together to touch that ground if you wish—but you are never pushed there, and we go slowly.
We don’t stir the bottom of the cup, but you can share it when we get there.
What love story isn’t? Most love stories are not simple, and widowhood often brings mixed feelings—longing, anger, gratitude, guilt, relief, and regret. TheraTea™ is a private space to hold the whole, messy truth of your relationship —making room for the times you couldn’t reach each other, so you can find a way to hold on to what still remains.
TheraTea™ can still be a fit. Time doesn’t always soften what’s unfinished, and love doesn’t stop mattering because years have passed.
If you feel the bond is still present—and you want a space to speak their name and explore what remains—you’re welcome to book a TheraTea™ call to see if this path fits where you are now.
You can continue in whatever way fits: monthly visits, seasonal check‑ins, or the next program (currently in development) that dives deeper into making sense of the emotional terrain after the threshold into widowhood has been crossed.
There is no pressure to continue—only an invitation.
This is the first season of TheraTea™—a pilot round, and an early walk of the map—as I refine the path, pacing, and materials with real widows in real homes.
Because you will be part of the First Steep, the program is offered at an introductory rate. In return, I may invite brief feedback along the way to help shape future rounds.
Pricing will increase as the program becomes established.
First Steep (Pilot Program)
Fee: $1,500 CAD
Includes: 12 weekly 1:1 visits in-home or online
Payment plan: 3 monthly payments of $500
I learned the pace of widowhood beside my grandmother—widowed twice—over tea at her kitchen table. I still use the teacups she left me.
When my husband, Isaac, died suddenly in 2018, that quiet world became my own. That’s when I realized that I was already holding the map for what the heart is going through when the person it rests in is gone.
I’m not here to analyze you. I’m here to come to you, put the kettle on, and make a safe, unhurried space to speak your person’s name—until your heart can find a little rest again.
Your Teatender,
Jen
Widowhood support and grief education, guided by a map of the terrain of widowhood—held in the seen, the unseen, and the space between
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About Your Teatender (Jennifer)
Email: hello@invitationtoexist.com